Misbehavior and the art of Submission

Imp
Little Shit
Pain in the ass
Bitch
Obnoxious
*cursing and grumbling*

Hmmm, if I had a nickle for every time I heard that! Ya know what... I don't need a whole nickle, a penny would do. One penny for every time I heard one of those wonderful terms, and I could buy the Taj Mahal!

But why? Isn't the idea of submission to obey, and serve your Master to the best of your ability? Well yes, and no. Why is it that submissives test their Masters? Doing things to deliberately push the boundaries and walk a very fine line between "What a good girl you've been!" and "What the hell? You are such a pain in the ass!"

Why do we do this? I'm not certain why other submissives do it, but I am certain that they do. It's in the nature of a submissive to behave in that manner. Best I can do, is explain this phenomenon from my personal experience.

But first, a disclaimer! Every time I misbehave it is not on purpose! I don't always make mistakes to get a reaction. Sometimes they are just that, mistakes. Sometimes when they are on purpose, they aren't a conscious decision. Now that that is out of the way...

What does poor behavior lead to? It leads to ones Master being rather pissed off, and worse yet, disappointed. Ack, the dreaded word! Disappointment! Of all the horrible things He could say, that is by far the worst. I would take a spanking, being yelled at, or sitting in a corner (which is so not going to happen), before I can handle knowing He's disappointed.

So this misbehavior business... why do it? It's an art form. There is a very small space to fit into between disappointment/anger and frustration. The idea is to keep Him teetering near frustration. The reason.. now that is much harder to explain.

Submissives are odd critters. We have very similar qualities, and yet are so different. One quality I have found that transcends most subs. We like to be reminded of our place. I feel safe knowing that I'm owned. When He uses my favorite word... "Mine". I find that I get slightly needy, and feel lost when I haven't had a reminder in a while. This time can be anywhere from 5 minutes to 5 days. Really it's whenever my mind has decided it's time. Once this happens, that is when my behavior will slip. Feeling sorry for Him yet?

There are times when I will slip and misbehave on purpose. Poor behavior gets attention, and sometimes faster than good behavior. It's not all about the attention, it's about the type of attention. If I misbehave, and He corrects my behavior, I'm reminded of my place. I again feel secure in my submission and can relax. While it would be nice to be constantly reminded of my submission, that is just unrealistic, and unfair to ask of Him.

Yes, it would be easier to simply ask Him to remind me. But, it wouldn't have the same effect I'm craving. What I crave is to feel His control, and His Domination over me. I want to feel compelled to follow his will, and leave mine. Asking Him for this wouldn't have the same effect. Besides, asking for it, hmmm... what am I asking? Please Dominate me? Somehow I don't think that works out right.

Which leaves me with the misbehavior option. Small things, never anything too big. This is where the art comes in. How to keep Him on the edge of true annoyance, and not let Him fall off. Small things will attract His attention, and usually give you the desired result. He will force you to stop. Even small things, a look, and gesture, a spanking, or even a few soft words. His arsenal is unlimited. Though when used properly will pull me back to where I desire to be, in His control. Because while under his control, there is peace and safety.

When left too long to my own devices, who knows what could happen! Really... and idle sub is nothing but trouble!